11/4/24 - Update On My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (222280)
United States
November 4, 2024 4:27am CST
Went to visit him and brought him a pot roast dinner from Bob Evans. He seemed to thoroughly enjoy it; and it was good to see him eat.
He reiterated that he didn't want to be there anymore. He sounded so sad. I feel for him; but there's nothing I can do until he's strong enough (if ever) to come home. When it was time for me to go, he didn't want me to leave and said that it didn't seem like I was there very long.
Thank you for your continued prayers, support and thoughts.
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@LeaPea2417 (40026)
• Toccoa, Georgia
4 Nov 24
@LindaOHio I think if your husband comes home, he could have around the clock nurses come by your house to tend to him. I'm sure that would cost a lot but with what you are paying for his rehab nursing center, it may cost the same.
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@LadyDuck (502304)
• Italy
5 Nov 24
@LindaOHio As @LeaPea2417 correctly said, if he comes home he could have around the clock nurses to take care of him. You should schedule a meeting with the therapist and also ask to a doctor to check his arm and shoulder.
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@snowy22315 (208817)
• United States
4 Nov 24
I would schedule a meeting with the social worker immediately include hubby if at all possible and discuss your concerns. He is in decline unfortunately.Really glad he enjoyed the roast beef and your visit Take care
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
4 Nov 24
Thank you. They could leave a tray for him instead of just leaving when he's sleeping.
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@jobelbojel (36796)
• Philippines
4 Nov 24
I am glad that he enjoyed the food. Seeing our loved ones eat would be a relief.
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@Marilynda1225 (91053)
• United States
4 Nov 24
I'm glad you were able to visit and bring him the pot roast and that he ate and enjoyed it. It must be so heartbreaking that he's miserable there and not knowing if he'll be able to come home.
Sending you lots of hugs Linda and hope there's a solution to all this
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
5 Nov 24
Thank you so much, Marilyn. I've been pretty good about staying positive so far.
@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
4 Nov 24
It's twice the cost. $25 x 24 x 30 = $18,000 a month.
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
7 Nov 24
@porwest I guess they may give you a break if you have 24/7 help; but I don't know what that is.
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@kaylachan (84742)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Nov 24
You just need to revisit home health options before the 100 days are up. Have it ready before he's discharged. By law, legally, they can't make him stay if he doesn't want to be. But you have 100 days of insurance-covered care so I'd be using that time to look into home health nursing and twenty-four hour care. That'll be there waiting. You can interview prospects during your visits to the place he's staying. None of this 'untill he's strong enough'.
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@kaylachan (84742)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
5 Nov 24
@LindaOHio Well, it was nice to get the break from paying. And, have you done the research? Have you looked into non-profit, or just went with the first home health company you saw?
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
5 Nov 24
We start paying again on Friday. 24/7 care would cost a minimum of $18,000 per month.
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
5 Nov 24
@kaylachan I got a list from the Council on Aging; and the hourly rates start at about $25 per hour. I still have a lot of other options to check out.
@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
4 Nov 24
Poor guy he Will definitely continue to be in my prayers and you also. Glad to hear he enjoyed the pot roast dinner you took him.
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@FourWalls (86623)
• United States
5 Nov 24
Oh, that’s gotta hurt you so badly. 
I hope he keeps gaining strength.
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
5 Nov 24
I try not to let myself get down. I've been pretty good for 9 months; but it's starting to get too real.
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@Juliaacv (56180)
• Canada
4 Nov 24
@LindaOHio I know, and you want him with you too.
I hope that he can get passed the negatives and work on getting strong enough to return home.
Try to contact him during the day or ask him to call you after meals to communicate to try to keep him from getting down in the dumps.
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
5 Nov 24
@Juliaacv I call him during the day; and he usually calls me at night.
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@rakski (156303)
• Philippines
5 Nov 24
@LindaOHio he is having a much difficult time there than the last one
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@RasmaSandra (97954)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
4 Nov 24
This is not good he sounds depressed but glad he had an appetite, You have to consider every single option he has got to get home, Blessings to you both, Please take a look at this I found online
https://www.caring.com/resources/guide-to-24-hour-in-home-care/
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
5 Nov 24
Thank you so much for the blessings and the link.
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
4 Nov 24
Yes, he certainly is. I don't blame him.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89487)
• Rupert, Idaho
4 Nov 24
I am so sorry to hear that...that would be so hard to see, I am sure...
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
5 Nov 24
I'm hanging in there the best that I can.
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@Beestring (15373)
• Hong Kong
4 Nov 24
I think it takes some time for him to go home. In the meantime, get him out of there if possible.
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@LindaOHio (222280)
• United States
4 Nov 24
I wish that was possible; but it's not.
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