Are you a do-what or a go-pher?

@JudyEv (363127)
Rockingham, Australia
June 16, 2025 12:02am CST
MyLotter Kareng (@kareng) has been helping her husband with working on his boats and has been ordering some bits and pieces for him. When Vince and I are working on a project, he is the boss and I am the helper, although I often have really good ideas too. I sometimes tell people I’m the ‘do-what’ as in ‘do what I’m told’ or the ‘go-pher’ as in ‘go for this’ or ‘go for that’. I’m sure there are many others who find themselves in these positions. No photo this time as for some reason photos won’t load at the moment.
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@vandana7 (102404)
• India
16 Jun
In India, we do not have the engineering background per se. So for every little thing, we depend upon workers, who do the thing. The best I remember ... repairing those music tapes using cello taps, and once the water cooler was leaking in the office...all male members were kinda confused what to do. I switched off the cooler, opened the case, pushed the pipe in. This made them ask me to repair the switches now and then. Boy was I scared....I mean, I can handle screw driver and remove the plastic wire around the copper wire, and push i in, and keep it separate...but earthing??? I told them many times, I am not an electrician....they said ...doesn't matter, we need the stuff now. Their office, their problem. LOL
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jun
I'm quite good at fixing things. You just have to work what works what and what needs moving/repairing/whatever. I wouldn't touch electricity though.
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• China
16 Jun
Most people work as assistants. However an ace spiker can do nothing without a setter.
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• China
16 Jun
@JudyEv An ace spiker is a volleyball player who scores points through powerfil spikes (smash a ball).Setter is the passer in volleyball.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jun
@changjiangzhibin89 Okay thanks. I really know nothing about volleyball although it is quite popular here. Beach volleyball is popular too because of our climate I guess.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jun
You will have to help me here. What is a spiker please? And what does his/her setter do?
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@kareng (79613)
• United States
17 Jun
I will be on to manual labor here soon as we want to get the Magum buffed out and waxed!
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
Buffing and waxing both sound like hard work.
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@kareng (79613)
• United States
17 Jun
@JudyEv I'll use an electric buffer if I can handle it. If I take too much off, I'll be fired.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
@kareng Well, if you're fired, you'll save yourself a whole lot more work!
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@LadyDuck (483627)
• Italy
16 Jun
My husband is the boss and I am the helper, even if often I am the one who has to "correct" what he is doing. The site has some problems this morning.
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@LadyDuck (483627)
• Italy
16 Jun
@JudyEv - I am not the photo feature works, but the site works better now than this morning.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jun
@LadyDuck I only had trouble with loading photos and still haven't been able to. I'll probably leave it now until tomorrow.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jun
I often picked up on something that wasn't quite right. I must have another try at loading a photo.
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@DaddyEvil (159954)
• United States
16 Jun
I've always been the one working on things and having to go get what I need. Pretty ignores me when I'm working on something.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jun
Luckily, we work well together mostly.
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@DaddyEvil (159954)
• United States
16 Jun
@JudyEv I'm glad you guys "mostly" work well together.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
@DaddyEvil Sometimes he doesn't listen to me!!!
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@LindaOHio (201063)
• United States
17 Jun
Hubby and I never worked on a project together as he always procrastinated about the projects that needed to be done. I have since completed 80% of the home projects.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
18 Jun
I remember you would be nearly tearing your hair out wishing he'd get on with things.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
18 Jun
@LindaOHio I'm sure you could.
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@LindaOHio (201063)
• United States
18 Jun
@JudyEv I'd gladly tear my hair out if he could just be here with me.
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@rebelann (114719)
• El Paso, Texas
16 Jun
I suppose I'm a go pher as in I live alone so I have to go pher everything that I might need
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@rebelann (114719)
• El Paso, Texas
17 Jun
Yep, I envy those who have trusted partners to share responsibility with
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
If you're on your own, then it's all up to you.
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@wolfgirl569 (122511)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Jun
When hubby is doing things I often do like you
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@wolfgirl569 (122511)
• Marion, Ohio
16 Jun
I usually don't mind either
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jun
I'm the fetch-it person but I don't mind. I enjoy helping in that way.
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@rakski (147919)
• Philippines
16 Jun
it depends, if it has something to do with electronics, it is my husband who is the boss. But doing something around the house like carpentry or things like that, I am the boss
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@rakski (147919)
• Philippines
16 Jun
@JudyEv that is true, those small problems we always can fix on our own
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
16 Jun
I think sometimes women are more practical. Often a problem is easily fixed. It isn't always a big problem.
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@Shiva49 (27523)
• Singapore
16 Jun
I recall a comic strip where the boss introduces an employee to a client. To impress the client, the employee says "I am the go-getter in this place". The boss then tells him " go and get two cups of tea for us". I attend to basic issues in my house but no complicated ones. My wife is good at solving issues that may escape my understanding.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
I don't think anyone can argue that men and women don't think differently. I can often find a solution and it may simply be because I'm not tied down to a conventional way of doing something, because I know nothing about how it would normally be done. I hope you can make sense of that last sentence! lol
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@Ronrybs (20988)
• London, England
16 Jun
I have to do everything myself! Still, I can work at my own pace
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
We have sometimes saved a heap of money by doing something ourselves but our labour costs would not want to be calculated. We're never very time-efficient.
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@Ronrybs (20988)
• London, England
19 Jun
@JudyEv Yes, I like doing it easy, no pressure
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• St. Clair, Michigan
16 Jun
I usually like to do things on my own. But every now and then, I need some help and I always ask for help when I need it. Like when I get this portable catio, you can bet I won’t know how to put it together. So I will ask the guys in my life to do it for me. Judy, I have to show you this thing. I think my cats will love it. I’ll be needing it for my new place. I plan on growing all kinds of cat-friendly weeds, catnip, and grass inside.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
@Melanie_Marie This is such a great idea. Letting cats come and go freely is pretty much frowned upon here now. They are predators for our smaller native animals and for our birds. But what you are getting is an ideal solution. At least you don't have to have them in the house all the time.
• St. Clair, Michigan
16 Jun
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@porwest (107631)
• United States
16 Jun
My wife has good ideas when we work on a project as well. The rule is to cut down the good idea first and then wait a little bit after I try what I want and it fails, then have a voila! moment where I spit out her idea and claim it as my own and then tell her she should listen to me more often.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
This must be a 'man' thing. Vince sometimes claims an idea as his own but he wouldn't be game to tell me I should listen to him more often!
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@porwest (107631)
• United States
17 Jun
@JudyEv I live on the edge. lol
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16 Jun
Yvonne is the boss regardless of what we are doing.. She knows best.. Easier just to nod my head . And get on with it
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
I think Vince has just about got that worked out too!
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
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17 Jun
@JudyEv He is a clever man
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@GardenGerty (165805)
• United States
17 Jun
I am not told anything but often I am the go pher. Bob likes to go for things, though.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
I enjoy getting all the tools he might need or pre-empting what will be needed next. Maybe I should have been a builder.
@allknowing (153784)
• India
17 Jun
There are roles where one is the boss and the other the assistant
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
Yes, that's true.
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@RasmaSandra (89014)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Jun
My situation is if I don't do it myself or get it it ain't getting done,
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
I guess there are many in similar situations who don't have anyone around to help.
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• United States
16 Jun
At this stage in my life I'm probably neither as I get someone else to do it
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
Believe me, we are getting very close to that point ourselves.
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@Traceyjayne (5301)
• United Kingdom
16 Jun
I think with us it very much depends on what job we arew undertaking. I help him with his jobs and he helps me with mine ...our boss and do what roles change accordingly.
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@JudyEv (363127)
• Rockingham, Australia
17 Jun
That sounds very sensible.