Do you realize that you have a made your own exclusive circle of friends

yeah I realize i have circles I use the plural form because i dont just have one group I have a few small groups that overlap sometimes that is a bad thing because the groups sometimes dont agree and I am stuck in the middle it all works out over time though

Bala! I just cannot say that I have some exclusive circle of friends here on mylot. Since I joined mylot I have made number of friends here, who have become very dear to me (you of course one of them). I try my level best to participate in their discusions and expect them to join me in my discussions. New friends are always welcome and I always receive new friends with open arms to my circle. Dear friends here are so responsive and prompt that whenever I start a new discussion, responses start pouring in from them and it makes me glad. If I find someone interesting, even if s/he is a new comer, I do not mind sending a friend request to him/her.

Yes, I have. I have a definitive circle of good friends here who have been there all through my time here. The best part of is that they are not complaining of my intermittent absence here or even my inability to respond. That's the beauty of it - understanding, love, integrity. Thanks for everything Bala.

By exclusive, this means a certain group of people and them only and this isn't the case at all when it comes to my activity here. There are definitely people that I interact with on a regular basis, but overall, I do feel like I mix it up quite a bit. For me it all comes down to a person's desire to interact. Anyone that tries to get a chat on will get my time if I have it spare! But aside from the above, even in real life we tend to gravitate towards like minded people so here's not really any different. We should definitely spread out though, because the more we do, the more potentially like minded people may arise!

Hi there Bala! I am always spreading out ever since I started here. I have many Lotters among my friends and they have me too and those that don't are aware of me (and of my antics ). I do not have an exclusive circle of friends at all on here - or offline either. I am aware that not all Lotters might appreciate everything I do or say so I try not to put anyone off balance when I 'land' in places where I never responded before. I join a discussion if the topic is interesting and/or fun - whether it is by the Lotters on my list or not makes no difference to me AT ALL!

I have a good circle of friends and I check out their discussions every day but I do try and join in other "circles" too because one cannot ever have too many friends! I receive friend’s requests regularly which is nice and I do request the odd one too, although not as often as I did when I first joined. I agree that we need to expand that's for sure.

Yes that is very true my friend, since joining this site mid 2006 I have built up a very exclusive circle of friends, although sadly so many have disappeared which is understandable and it's always difficult to keep track of them especially if they suddenly go and you don't have a forwarding email. But I always appreciate my close friends responding to my discussions and I try to endeavour to respond back whenever possible. It's lovely to have friends from all over the world and there is no need to feel lonely. Because I am not a social person and find it very difficult to mix with others in the outside world I find Mylot provides the gap and even though I will sadly probably never see any of my exclusive friends I know they are always there for me and hopefully vice versa.

True and I have also noticed that once I started responding to some people whose topics I generally liked, there was greater interaction .With my time limitations, I used to just choose my discussions and it happened that I would be responding to the same people again and again.But, sometimes I do just pick on some random discussion and respond , though I would come sooner than later to friends'topics. I think this is bound to happen. Here too, like in a big class room, we would still have some close friends and others who are friends,nevertheless. I am sure, as time goes, we would meet more new people and I can only see a situation that normally happpens in college.In my PUC there were 90 and odd people in my classroom.I could only relateto a very few and one was close.In my BA, I had a select few and they were all good friends. In my post graduation it was 12 in all and though we were like a family, there was still a special friend. Here I would take it as it comes.I cannot get too active. But this exclusive circle does not prevent us from open minded discussions with many people.

I have not stop admitting new friends regardless of old or newbies to my circle of friends. Though I have stop requesting friendships but it doesn't mean that I have closed my doors for friendship as anytime anyone send a request I will always welcome them with open arms. I have certainly gained a circle of diehard fans who are loyal friends who never fail to support me. Never stop the wheel of friendships as it is where the survival of our mylotting stands.

Hi bala, you are right guess some of us don't see it like that but during my time here on myLot I have found that I have become closer to certain people than others, so as you say inadvertently got an exclusive circle of friends, hugs LoLo

I think that is very true. I do try to go fishing in a wider pool. But in all honesty I find myself coming back to the same group time and time again. These are people who are my friends off myLot too now. I have been very blessed, but there's always room for more. I shall pop over to new user discussios and see what's there. Thanks for the reminder.

I'm well aware that this is what I do. It's not a deliberate thing, but as my internet time is so limited I have discussions posted to my inbox so I can read them offline later on. I can't have them all delivered to my inbox (I expect it would explode!) so I've chosen just a few friends who's discussions generally interest me. I'm sure there are hoards of other fascinating myLotters out there who's discussions are equally appealing, but I just haven't the time right now to view them all.

Yeah I have. I think that's because when people start to stray from myLot and focus on other things. We tend to just rely on our friends' started discussions saving us the time for looking for discussions that would interest us and read them one by one to see if we actually do have something to say or the discussion itself shows that we might not know anything about the topic at all. Its not that we are trying to be 'exclusive' but over time we see those members on our friends list who are regularly being active in the site and posting discussions and responding to them. If all of the people on our friends' list are active, I dont think it will be called 'exclusive'. Anyway, I do respond to those topics that my friends' have started and that are of interest to me. But if I feel that I should try other's discussions, then I dont hesitate to go to the no responses page and respond on those days old discussions that havent found any responses yet.

I definitely think we tend to make our own little group of personal friends on myLot - after all, there are thousands of members, and most of them we will probably never come across in our travels. There are probably only a dozen people whose discussions I regularly respond to - and a few of those have become really good online friends.

I've realised that Bala and much as i go on accepting friend requests there will be a few with whom i interact with constantly. Spreading the number of friends is easy, but i've found interacting and keeping up with more and more to be difficult more due to external factors mainly being time. The group of friends with whom i presently interact are special and great and it's been fun interacting with them.

in my time here at mylot,i too have developed my own circle of friends ,i would love to spread out and know many others but i do have time restraint,it sometimes becomes not possible.

I often find that there aren't enough discussions amongst my elite circle of Mylot friends, to respond to. So, I go into "New" or "Top" discussions, whereby I invariably make new friends. My circle is so large now that there are some I know very well and some I hardly know at all, so I can't see that "stagnant" problem ever arising. Besides all that, there are a few friends on here with whom I've grown very close. I visit them, and spend time with them. Mylot has opened up a whole new view on life for me! Brightest Blessings, my friend.

I have alot of friends in my friends list here at Mylot. I respond to each and every one of them if possible. they respond to me also if I ever make a discussion.

Well, I believe that is not the quantity but the quality that counts. I'm very satisfied with all my lot friends ,and I'm fortunate to be part of this special group of people.

If I write a general topic, I have lots of responses and pick up new responders. If I keep to wild food or something very specific, yes, I pretty much have the same responders.