That's not right!!

This really gets to me. I think that the original poster will eventually see that $50 and probably soon because someone who is always late on child support or who tries to go underground, get laid off, or fired to avoid paying once will do it again. It's too bad they don't extract an additional $200 from him to hold just in case he decides not to pay her for 4 months! I believe if you're paying support that you should be able to see the child - now if you DON'T pay support or if it has been determined that you can only have supervised visitation, I'm sure that would be different. When kids are young, they are supposed to be able to see both parents, and regularly - if there is no concern that one parent is unfit. When they get older, only then do they really get to say 'hey, I don't really want to visit' blah blah blah. I know about the reduced lunch thing because although something like 80% of the kids in this district qualify, we don't. My son is constantly complaining that I forget to put lunch money on his account, well, the fees went up once again and I keep telling him to make a sandwich lol. Children are not free to raise, and while I believe the whole parenting and caring for and all that physical and emotional stuff is a lot TOUGHER than the financial aspect, there IS a financial aspect and it is so weird that so many people think you can raise a kid on $50 a month lol. Impossible.

My son's father doesn't want to see my son. He doesn't call, or send cards, nothing. He tried to convince me to give him up for adoption when I was pregnant, then when I finally did go after him for support, which didn't happen until my son was 5, he tried to lay the guilt trip on me, as if it's my fault I got pregnant in the first place and how hard it is for him now... blah blah blah. He was pleading his poverty case to the judge for like half an hour... over $50 a month... that doesn't even feed my son for a week!! He's a growing 12 year old boy... and I've got 4 younger kids besides him. My husband kills himself to support our family, and most years I only see 1 or 2 child support payments all year!

95% of the kids in this district qualify for free lunches but we dont even though after we pay his child support and our utility bills and mortgage we only have about $150 to raise 5 kids its not fair to my kids they deserve better! they deserve to be able to enjoy a hot meal with their friends at school they deserve to have the clothes they want and the chance to do the activities that they want It makes me feel horrible when I have to tell my child they cant go on the feild trip because we dont have the $5-$10 to pay but yet a sister they have never met gets $600 every month his ex-wife moved their daughter out of state making it virtually impossible for him to have his visitation with his daughter he hasnt seen his daughter in over 10 years when we finally located them a couple of years ago his daughter didnt want to be in his life because she was told that he abondandoned her and a whole bunch of other lies the child wont even give her father a chance to tell her what really happened

Oh boy! That's quite the situation! I'm sorry! :/ But still...there has to be something you can do! Who are they to say what he can or can not give in child support!? What if one month he just decided to give you 1,000 bucks!? Do they think they can take 950 bucks of it away?!?! No good thieves!!!!

I have no idea if he'd get involved or not, but I have no way of contacting him. I've never had a way of contacting him... even child support doesn't have his real address or phone number. He gave them a friend's address. See, he was married at the time my son was concieved, so he's still trying to keep all of this a secret from his wife. He used to have my number and address and would call every so often and stuff, but then I moved and couldn't let him know, so we have no way of contacting each other.

PS No, it's not right...

Heck no, I'd be the last person on the planet to blame you... I'm kind of surprised that his wife wouldn't know though. If there's a court order, it would be hard for her not to know. Sometimes it is easier for the father not to be involved. Oh the stories I could tell...

I'm so glad my biggest problem with my son's father is the child support! He wants nothing to do with us, and I'm happy to keep it that way. He was married when I met him (long story, and I was young so don't blame me) and I assume that to this day his wife still doesn't know about my son, and he wants to keep it that way. Like I said, fine by me. My hubby is "daddy" to my son, and hubby acts like a father to him too. If it weren't for the skin color and the last name you'd never know they weren't father and son. I like it that way.

the big problem from my viewpoint is she needs a heck of a lot more than a measly fifty dollars, now how far is that' going to go with today's prices?

Yes it's $50 and it's for 1 child. It's how much he and another woman agreed he paid for her child, so I said that was fine with me too. This was back like 6 years ago when my only concern was finding him so he could sign his parental rights over to my husband... but we never got around to doing that.

Exactly, none of that money should be on "hold"... Do they not realize that it could be put to good use?

I'm not sure if he's aware or not, I have no way of contacting him and he never calls me. The child support payments are our only link to each other, so I'm clueless. I think my son should have all the money though, who cares if he overpaid...