2/20/24 - Update on My Husband
By LindaOH
@LindaOHio (222534)
United States
February 19, 2024 10:48pm CST
This all happened too quickly; and I haven't had time to adjust. Spent quite a bit of time yesterday crying. The thought of my husband, who I've been with for 57 years, not coming home is devastating.
Hubby's friend went to visit him yesterday. As usual hubs was in the dining room sitting in front of his plate of food. No one was there feeding him. At one point he wanted some ice water. His friend went to get him some. Hubby insisted on holding the glass himself even though his friend tried to hold it for him. Of course the glass and water ended up on the floor. My husband asked if I had come with him. That broke my heart. He thinks he just arrived yesterday; but he's been there since Friday.
His cousin brought his clothes to the facility yesterday. She found out from the rehab people that hubs doesn't know his address, doesn't know what year it is (he said it was 1842 and he just got married). They have him in that wheelchair that he can't get out of; and I know it hurts his back. All they did in rehab was have him sit in a chair. What good will that do? He needs arm and hand strength too so he can hold a cup. They are supposed to call me; and I will give them a piece of my mind.
I will go and see him again on Thursday. I wish he was closer.
Thank you for your continuing prayers, thoughts and support. You are all dear friends.
Photo Credit: Pixabay
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37 responses
@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
20 Feb 24
Of all the people here, you understand more because you've met him and seen that he was OK. 
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@LadyDuck (502565)
• Italy
20 Feb 24
I feel so sorry Linda. I remember when my Mother was moved to a rheab, she had the same treatment, no one took care of her. I hope you can move him in a place where he has a better care. He has lost his memory but he remembers people, that is very good.
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@LadyDuck (502565)
• Italy
20 Feb 24
@LindaOHio I do not believe that your husband is well enough to start a rehab program.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
20 Feb 24
I'm going to call the woman who placed him there to see what her thoughts are.
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@MarieCoyle (59250)
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20 Feb 24
I do hope you can get him moved to a place that has better care. I know it has to be truly hard to see him like this. I am glad he remembers people, especially you. That means a lot. Hugs and prayers, Linda.
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@TheHorse (238317)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Feb 24
@LindaOHio How could she not know this pace sucks? Sorry. I'm a bit grumpy right now.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
20 Feb 24
Thank you, Marie. I'm going to start with the woman who placed him there. She knows all about various facilities.
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@MarieCoyle (59250)
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20 Feb 24
@LindaOHio
That’s a good idea. I hope she has an alternative solution very quickly!
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@kareng (80243)
• United States
21 Feb 24
@LindaOHio You are welcome! Don't forget to take care of YOU!
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
20 Feb 24
This is heartbreaking. People are not treated well in places like this it seems. My grandpa was in one and it wasn’t great there but they couldn’t release him.
I wonder if the fall led to all this… and if he would be fine if he hadn’t fallen.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
21 Feb 24
YES! That's why I blame myself. If he hadn't gone out on the porch to get the package, he wouldn't have fallen; and he'd still be home.
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@lovebuglena (52174)
• Staten Island, New York
21 Feb 24
@LindaOHio you couldn’t have stopped him from going to get it though. Even if you said not to get it he may have done it anyway.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
22 Feb 24
@lovebuglena I know. I'm just upset that he has gotten so bad so quickly.
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@porwest (112876)
• United States
20 Feb 24
Gosh, I feel so bad for you (and him) to have to go through this. I wish I had better words to offer in consolation or comfort. But of course, even as a writer, sometimes there simply are no words. But rather only to say we are keeping you and hubby in our thoughts, and while we are not physically there to offer any support or comfort, we are happy to at least be an outlet and a shoulder as well as a ray of sunshine and hope. All the best to you and hubby.
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@jefferson126 (3670)
• Shenzhen, China
20 Feb 24
Sorry to hear your hubby memory was regressing,wish you bring him good luck on Thursday.it's very nice of your hubby's friend and cousin.
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@TheHorse (238317)
• Walnut Creek, California
20 Feb 24
@LindaOHio I am glad to hear that. Maybe I will too. It's more important than yapping on MyLot. What city are you in?
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
20 Feb 24
I'm going to research other places for him.
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@jefferson126 (3670)
• Shenzhen, China
21 Feb 24
@LindaOHio ,wish you find a better facility for husband,good luck.
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@2ndchances24 (12215)
• Cloverdale, Indiana
20 Feb 24
Oh God I know that had to really hurt
I know when things like this happens to a loved 1
it's hard to comes to grips with, I wish there was
something I could tell you to help you with this.
My thoughts & prayers are with you, I know
it's not easy & your mind is filled with all kinds
of things you aren't ready for, I'm here for you.3 people like this
@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
21 Feb 24
They will be calling me this afternoon on a conference call. I will ask many questions and voice my concerns.
@apsmine9 (358)
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22 Feb 24
@LindaOHio yes please do. If possible, please jot them down.
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@Tina30219 (82978)
• Onaway, Michigan
20 Feb 24
Yeah when you are with someone for a long time it is hard when they are not with you at home. I hope they start working with him more he needs it.
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@Juliaacv (56298)
• Canada
21 Feb 24
@LindaOHio I understand, but that does not mean that he isn't still the love of your life.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
22 Feb 24
@Juliaacv He is everything to me; and I miss him so much, Julia.
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@Marilynda1225 (91115)
• United States
20 Feb 24
Oh Linda that is so sad. I'm praying hard for you both and hope your hubby is still able to regain his strength and recover. I'm sending you lots of love and plenty of prayers.
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@JudyEv (382240)
• Rockingham, Australia
21 Feb 24
@LindaOHio I'm sure it's very distressing to see him under such conditions.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
21 Feb 24
I am handling it better than I thought I would. The worst part is when I'm with him. That's when I really lose it.
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
20 Feb 24
Oh Linda I am so sorry to hear this. I wss hoping when he got to rehab that he would get better care. They should be eorking with him to build up his strength because he is getting so weak. Contnued prayers.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
21 Feb 24
Thank you, Laurel. I'm afraid he's just going to waste away.
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@LindaOHio (222534)
• United States
23 Feb 24
@Happy2BeMe He's lost 30 pounds in 3 weeks!
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@Happy2BeMe (99353)
• Canada
22 Feb 24
@LindaOHio I can understand that. It would be such a worry.
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@MommyOfEli2013 (89671)
• Rupert, Idaho
20 Feb 24
I'm so sorry to hear how he's doing and how things are still going. Things can happen so quickly, I definitely understand that. Sending good thoughts....
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