It’s Official: They dumped her Ashes
By Amber
@AmbiePam (123547)
United States
June 1, 2026 10:01am CST
If you’ve been reading my posts, you probably know what I’m going to say. See, my mom had early onset dementia of the frontal lobe (she was 46 when she was diagnosed). We all decided since her case was so rare , and she wanted it, we would donate her body (brain) to science for that kind of research). After they are done, they cremate the body, and then give the ashes back to you in a big, beautiful wooden box (ashes are in a clear sack).
Now, go back to last week or the week before. When my dad hired a couple in our church (who needed money) to clean my apartment. They ended up throwing away my $400 medicine, and so on. Yeah, you guessed it. I discovered they threw away my mom’s ashes. My dad feels sick about this (he asked them about it). Now, he and I both know my mom is in Heaven. Those ashes are a representation, and she is feeling no pain. Yet, it’s important. I’m trying to keep perspective.
It’s not all hopeless in that respect though. You know I get things to review? Early in, I got two cremation necklaces that didn’t look like cremation jewelry. I put ashes in one for me, and one had ashes in a necklace for my sister. So there’s that.
I have also been blessed this week, which I’m so thankful to God. And lots of people are facing really tough things right now. But, it’s just upsetting. These poor people just don’t seem to be very smart.
27 people like this
27 responses
@FourWalls (87950)
• United States
1 Jun
This is terrible. I can understand it if you had things overflowing from the trash can and had things sitting on the floor by the trash can, but to go into a refrigerator and grab something or to pick up a decorative box or urn and toss it like it’s a half-eaten pizza? Something bad made even worse now. 
7 people like this
@Marilynda1225 (91709)
• United States
1 Jun
Amber I am actually speechless. I am totally lost for words that these people threw away your moms ashes. I really hope they have an explanation.
6 people like this
@Marilynda1225 (91709)
• United States
2 Jun
@AmbiePam I'm sorry to say but all this sounds so suspicious to me.
1 person likes this
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (18558)
• Torrington, Connecticut
1 Jun
That is very upsetting, sorry you had to deal with that I would of been heart broken
7 people like this
@BACONSTRIPSXXX (18558)
• Torrington, Connecticut
1 Jun
@AmbiePam That's understandable
2 people like this
@MarieCoyle (60731)
•
1 Jun
@AmbiePam
As a parent, I know this is true. In this case, I feel your Dad was too trusting and these people were beyond clueless, but his heart was in the right place, trying to help you. I wouldn't trust them to be able to even clean a kitty litter pan. I don't have a housecleaner, but if I did, it would have to be someone I knew and trusted, OR someone with references. Not that I have closets stuffed with valuables or much that anyone else would want, but the stuff is my stuff and what I keep and don't keep is my choice.
You know I hurt for you and for your Dad with this. I know your Mom is in heaven, and that was her earthly remains, that she doesn't need anymore. But I also know, this has to hurt, so much.
5 people like this
@snowy22315 (211260)
• United States
1 Jun
Geez, what is there to say? The stuff that happens to you seems almost unbelievable. You and Loo seem to have that in common. Very sorry that happened to you though.
4 people like this
@Aquitaine24 (12237)
• San Jose, California
1 Jun
I would be careful asking strangers to clean for you.
3 people like this
@LeaPea2417 (40181)
• Toccoa, Georgia
1 Jun
I can't believe what I just read! How could anybody look at a cremation box/urn and not know what it is and be so dumb as to throw it away?
5 people like this
@AmbiePam (123547)
• United States
1 Jun
@LeaPea2417 I imagine they do, but my dad is the one who talked to them. He didn’t want me to talk to them because he feared I’d be rude. They probably did feel really badly.
2 people like this
@LeaPea2417 (40181)
• Toccoa, Georgia
1 Jun
@AmbiePam Do they have remorse about it? I would feel so bad that I would at least try to see if it could be recovered at the landfiil. At least you do have the necklaces.
2 people like this
@Juliaacv (56986)
• Canada
1 Jun
That would disturb me so much if my mother's ashes were tossed out.
That action shows such a lack of respect to you, as they were to help you.
Thankfully you and Mindy both have a little bit of her ashes in a piece of jewelry, and of course you have a heartful of sweet memories of her and her sweet ways.
4 people like this
@just4him (323275)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
1 Jun
That's horrible that they would throw away your mom's ashes, but they also threw away $400 of medicine. You can't just go to the pharmacy and say someone threw away your medication and get more. That puts you in a bind. I hope you will be all right.
5 people like this
@Deepizzaguy (123639)
• Lake Charles, Louisiana
1 Jun
I am sorry to learn that your late mom's ashes were thrown away by accident.
3 people like this
@NJChicaa (127440)
• United States
1 Jun
I'm sorry to read this. I hope that you can move past this pain sooner rather than later.
I have no experience with dealing with the ashes of a loved one. Whenever I've had to put a cat down I just choose the option to spread them in a memorial forest. My mother said she is about ready to finally spread my dad's ashes almost 3 years after he passed. I don't think I'd be super attached to them. Like you said you already know your mother is in heaven.
Still I'm sorry that you lost them in this way.
4 people like this
@MarieCoyle (60731)
•
2 Jun
@AmbiePam
That’s going to be very difficult. I’m sorry that you have to do that but she needs to know. Prayers and a big hug, Amber.
2 people like this
@GardenGerty (170229)
• United States
2 Jun
There are people in a similar condition in my brother's church. Needy but none too bright. I wish your dad would not have people come in to do stuff in your house.
2 people like this
@Orson_Kart (8480)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun
I read and commented on them dumping your medication without asking and thought that was disgraceful, but this is even worse. Do you think there was any malice intended? Apart from trashing your place, I don’t know if they could have upset you more. Your dad needs to hold them to account, they are bad people.
2 people like this
@AmbiePam (123547)
• United States
2 Jun
I just don’t believe they were thinking period. I wonder if they even looked at what they were throwing away. This was enough of a catalyst for my dad to talk to them although I don’t know what was said.
Here’s what gets me. They (family) do these things, I get upset, and then they get mad at me for getting upset. Most people would be upset about these things. I think my mom’s ashes though is something they at least understand.
1 person likes this
@AmbiePam (123547)
• United States
2 Jun
@Orson_Kart Yes, they definitely are, and I appreciate it so much.
@Orson_Kart (8480)
• United Kingdom
2 Jun
@AmbiePam This obviously happened while you were out. They clearly needed to be supervised or were told to be ruthless when dealing with stuff. Your dad should feed back what he told them, although there obviously is no way of undoing the harm they did.
It’s small comfort I know, but at least your myLot family are with you on this and giving what support they can.
1 person likes this
@wolfgirl569 (138020)
• Marion, Ohio
1 Jun
So so sorry they did that. Very glad you had ordered those necklaces. But that's just so very wrong.
3 people like this
@Shasha_ (1333)
• Porto, Portugal
1 Jun
I am so incredibly sorry you are going through this. Discovering that something so deeply sacred and irreplaceable was accidentally thrown away is devastating. Even though you know your mom is at peace, those ashes were a profound physical connection to her, and having that violated by careless cleaning is completely heartbreaking.
3 people like this
