It’s Official: They dumped her Ashes

@AmbiePam (120075)
United States
June 1, 2026 10:01am CST
If you’ve been reading my posts, you probably know what I’m going to say. See, my mom had early onset dementia of the frontal lobe (she was 46 when she was diagnosed). We all decided since her case was so rare , and she wanted it, we would donate her body (brain) to science for that kind of research). After they are done, they cremate the body, and then give the ashes back to you in a big, beautiful wooden box (ashes are in a clear sack). Now, go back to last week or the week before. When my dad hired a couple in our church (who needed money) to clean my apartment. They ended up throwing away my $400 medicine, and so on. Yeah, you guessed it. I discovered they threw away my mom’s ashes. My dad feels sick about this (he asked them about it). Now, he and I both know my mom is in Heaven. Those ashes are a representation, and she is feeling no pain. Yet, it’s important. I’m trying to keep perspective. It’s not all hopeless in that respect though. You know I get things to review? Early in, I got two cremation necklaces that didn’t look like cremation jewelry. I put ashes in one for me, and one had ashes in a necklace for my sister. So there’s that. I have also been blessed this week, which I’m so thankful to God. And lots of people are facing really tough things right now. But, it’s just upsetting. These poor people just don’t seem to be very smart.
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@sallypup (69092)
• Centralia, Washington
1h
NO. Oh, Amber. Just NO.
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@xFiacre (14738)
• Ireland
1h
@AmbiePam That’s just heartbreaking. You’re being very brave looking on what’s certain, that the ashes weren’t her, and that she’s safe. I really feel for you and your family.
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@AmbiePam (120075)
• United States
42m
Thank you.
@LadyDuck (501658)
• Italy
57m
Oh NO! I have no words Amber, I am so sorry. Those people have no respect, they had not to throw anything without asking permit first. This sounds so horrible.
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• United States
1h
Amber I am actually speechless. I am totally lost for words that these people threw away your moms ashes. I really hope they have an explanation.
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@AmbiePam (120075)
• United States
43m
They just said they didn’t know, and couldn’t tell what it was. I’m not really sure what a bag of ashes could be mistaken for, though.
• Torrington, Connecticut
53m
That is very upsetting, sorry you had to deal with that I would of been heart broken
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@AmbiePam (120075)
• United States
41m
I just really don’t want my dad to feel worse. He isn’t upset about the ashes so much as worrying about me being upset. You know how it is; you worry more about your kids than you do about yourself.
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• Torrington, Connecticut
Just now
@AmbiePam That's understandable
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@MarieCoyle (58742)
Just now
@AmbiePam As a parent, I know this is true. In this case, I feel your Dad was too trusting and these people were beyond clueless, but his heart was in the right place, trying to help you. I wouldn't trust them to be able to even clean a kitty litter pan. I don't have a housecleaner, but if I did, it would have to be someone I knew and trusted, OR someone with references. Not that I have closets stuffed with valuables or much that anyone else would want, but the stuff is my stuff and what I keep and don't keep is my choice. You know I hurt for you and for your Dad with this. I know your Mom is in heaven, and that was her earthly remains, that she doesn't need anymore. But I also know, this has to hurt, so much.
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@just4him (323150)
• Green Bay, Wisconsin
Just now
That's horrible that they would throw away your mom's ashes, but they also threw away $400 of medicine. You can't just go to the pharmacy and say someone threw away your medication and get more. That puts you in a bind. I hope you will be all right.
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@FourWalls (86290)
• United States
Just now
This is terrible. I can understand it if you had things overflowing from the trash can and had things sitting on the floor by the trash can, but to go into a refrigerator and grab something or to pick up a decorative box or urn and toss it like it’s a half-eaten pizza? Something bad made even worse now.
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@NJChicaa (127090)
• United States
Just now
I'm sorry to read this. I hope that you can move past this pain sooner rather than later. I have no experience with dealing with the ashes of a loved one. Whenever I've had to put a cat down I just choose the option to spread them in a memorial forest. My mother said she is about ready to finally spread my dad's ashes almost 3 years after he passed. I don't think I'd be super attached to them. Like you said you already know your mother is in heaven. Still I'm sorry that you lost them in this way.
@thelme55 (79257)
• Germany
Just now
Oh, my God! I am so sorry. They shouldn’t do that to the ashes of your mom. That is a horrible thing to do for you and your dad.
• United States
Just now
That is totally unacceptable! So was throwing away your medication. I hope you/your Dad will NEVER let them in your apartment again. I am so sorry this has happened to you.
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